The Turning Point That Changed How I Relate to Emotions

There was a time in my life when I believed it was my job to manage my emotions. To make sure I only felt the good ones. To avoid or fix the uncomfortable ones. To stay on top of every shift in mood, always analysing and adjusting.

It was exhausting and it didn't work.

The turning point came when I stopped trying to control my emotional state—and just observed it instead. What I noticed changed everything.

My emotions were already flowing on their own. I didn’t need to manage or influence them. A low mood would come, and then it would pass. Joy would arrive, and it would pass too. Insecurity, confidence, peace, irritation—each one appearing and disappearing like the natural rhythm of day turning to night, and night turning to day.

I wasn’t in control of when they showed up. And I didn’t need to do anything for them to move on. This understanding revealed something powerful: I wasn’t broken. I didn’t need to fix how I felt. I only needed to see that emotions are part of the human system—self-moving, self-clearing. Our clarity and well-being are there, beneath the noise, always.

You don’t need to control your feelings. You just need to know they don’t define you—and they won’t last.