Person covered in sticky notes If you’ve spent years trying to improve yourself, to feel more confident, less anxious, more “together”, you might have absorbed the idea that something in you needs fixing. I used to believe that too. Many of the women I work with are competent, capable and thoughtful. On the surface, they are functioning well. But internally, there is a constant sense of evaluation. Am I doing enough? Am I too much? Did I say the wrong thing? Over time, that i

Triggered by anxiety? Here’s why that’s not a setback We’ve been taught that if something triggers us, if a wave of anxiety hits out of nowhere, it means we’re not coping well. That we’re stuck. That there’s something wrong with us. But that’s not what’s happening. In this video, I share a personal story about something traumatic that happened when one of my dogs was hit by a car (he survived, don’t worry). What followed — the anxiety, the flashbacks, the fear of repeating th

I recently watched the Victoria Beckham  documentary, and one moment at the end really struck me because it captures the heart of what I help people see in my work. In the final scene, David asks Victoria why she still feels she has something to prove, and he suggests that maybe she’s trying to prove to herself that she’s good enough. It’s such a powerful reflection of what so many of us do — chasing success, approval, or achievement in the hope that one day we’ll finally fee

Some problems in life are real and practical — things like finding a new job, ending a relationship, or saving money for a holiday. You’ll know when those are solved because there’s a clear outcome. But many of the things we call “problems” aren’t actually problems at all — they’re thoughts about ourselves, our worth, or what other people think. And those can’t be fixed by more thinking, because they only exist in thought. In this short video, I share two simple questions tha

We’re often told that the way to solve a problem is to think about it — harder, longer, and deeper. But what if that’s actually the thing keeping you stuck? In this short video, I share a simple metaphor that might completely change the way you see overthinking, and help you find clarity when your mind feels full and noisy. 🎥 Watch now to see why thinking less can bring the answers you’ve been looking for. Please sign up  to my mailing list to receive new videos as they are

Have you ever wondered why, no matter how much you achieve, there’s still a quiet voice inside saying you’re not quite good enough? I was reminded of this recently while watching the Victoria Beckham documentary . In the final scene, David asks Victoria why she’s still so driven, what she’s still trying to prove. Her response? She’s proving it to herself. That simple exchange was powerful. Because it reveals something we all experience in different ways: no amount of success,

We all have moments when we do something we don’t like — maybe we snap, defend ourselves, or act in a way that feels out of line with who we want to be. Then the shame hits. We promise ourselves that next time  we’ll be calmer, kinder, more in control… and yet the same pattern plays out again. In this week’s video, I respond to a listener’s question about this exact experience — a habitual reaction that feels impossible to stop and leaves her feeling embarrassed and ashamed.

In this video, I bust a myth that many of us have grown up believing: that other people are responsible for how we feel. This is often a sticking point for many of my 1:1 clients—and understandably so. When someone says something hurtful or behaves badly, it feels  like they’re causing our emotional reaction. But is that the full picture? I explore: Why your mood plays such a big role in how you experience other people’s words or actions How believing something about yourself

In this short video, I explore a pattern I see so often—especially in those of us who are thoughtful, motivated, or on any kind of self-development path: the belief that being hard on ourselves is necessary for change. We’re often told (directly or indirectly) that pushing, striving, and self-criticism are what keep us on track—whether it’s with our health, career, relationships, or personal goals. But what if that pressure isn’t helping? I talk about: Why self-criticism feel

In this short video, I share a powerful personal story about one of my closest friends, who is currently facing a potentially life-altering health crisis. It’s a stark and emotional example—but also a deeply human reminder of something important: 💡 We are far more resilient than we think. I explore: Why we think  we can’t handle certain things—and why that’s just the mind talking The difference between imagining a crisis and actually living through one How real strength show

In this short video, I’m out in the field (literally!) with my dog Ash, sharing a few thoughts on procrastination—why we do it, what it means, and how to move through it. Whether you're putting off a difficult conversation, hesitating on a life change, or just stuck in that familiar cycle of "I'll deal with it later," this is a gentle encouragement for you. I talk about: Why our minds resist change (even when we want  it) How fear and hesitation are part of the process—not a

Video You Are Not Broken Somewhere along the way, many of us picked up the idea that we’re not enough. That we need fixing. That our worth is something to earn or prove. We live in a world obsessed with self-improvement—but what if the constant need to fix yourself is  the problem? In this short, powerful video, I use a simple example—my dog Ash—to remind us of what we’ve forgotten: your worth isn’t based on how you feel, what you’ve been through, or how well you’re doing at

There was a time in my life when I believed it was my job to manage my emotions. To make sure I only felt the good ones. To avoid or fix the uncomfortable ones. To stay on top of every shift in mood, always analysing and adjusting. It was exhausting and it didn't work. The turning point came when I stopped trying to control my emotional state—and just observed it instead. What I noticed changed everything. My emotions were already flowing on their own. I didn’t need to man

Have you ever felt completely consumed by worry or anxiety about something that hasn’t even happened yet? Your mind racing, trying to figure it out, plan it out, solve it ahead of time? If so, here are two powerful questions you can ask yourself: Is this happening now? Often, our anxious thoughts are about something in the future—a flight, a job interview, a conversation, an event. But when we stop and ask, Is this actually happening right now? , we create space between ours

Always running late? Stressed before the day even starts? It might feel like the problem is your schedule—or your life—but it’s not. What’s really driving the rush and overwhelm is something much deeper (and far more solvable). In this video, I break down what’s actually  happening when you feel frantic, behind, or like you can’t keep up. It’s not about time. It’s about a state of mind that makes everything feel urgent—even when it’s not. This insight can change how you exper

Why do we suffer? It’s often not the situation itself, but our resistance to it. This blog explores how our thoughts shape our struggles—and

Welcome to a fresh take on the New Year, New You concept. Unlike typical resolutions, this video challenges the myths around self-improvement at the year's end 🎉 As the year comes to a close, many of us start reflecting on the past year and planning for the next. Society and media bombard us with messages that we need to change and improve ourselves, and reach certain standards. But is that really necessary? 🤔 In this video, I'll help you see through the myths and pressures

In this video, I'm diving into an important topic for us all: What do I want? As the year draws to a close, it’s a perfect time to reflect on your past year and start contemplating the next. Whether you're setting new goals or contemplating changes, I’m here to guide you to clarify why you want what you want. And importantly, to check if what you want is actually achievable though the goal you desire. *Why It’s Important:* Reflect on your past year and look ahead with clarity

As the Christmas season approaches, many of us feel the familiar pressure: long to-do lists, relationship stress, and the unrealistic “New Year, New You” narrative creeping in. But what if this year could be different? What if, instead of overwhelm, you could experience a calm and centered Christmas? In this live, interactive masterclass, you’ll learn how to navigate Christmas pressures with calm, clarity, and intention—so you can move through this season with ease, rather th

In this video, I explore the heart of why we often resist feeling the full spectrum of our emotions, even the positive ones like love and joy. It's time to uncover the truth about emotions and release the fear that holds us back. Key Points Covered: Understanding Our Fear:  Discover why we tend to avoid certain emotions and how this fear limits our emotional experience. Myths About Emotions:  Learn about the common misconceptions that make us believe emotions are unsafe or