Video by Lindsey Elliott Coaching How To Stop Believing The Voice in Your Head If you’ve spent any time trying to deal with the voice in your head, sometimes referred to as the inner critic, you'll know it picks apart your decisions, replays conversations, and tells you you’re not handling things as well as you should. And you’ve probably tried a few of the usual approaches. Reframing what it says. Talking back to it. Being kinder to yourself. Picturing it as a small, angry c

There’s a voice in your head that you’ve been listening to for most of your life. Some people call it the inner critic. Some call it negative self-talk. Whatever you call it, you know the voice I mean. It tells you you said the wrong thing in that meeting. That you should have handled the conversation with your daughter better. That other women your age seem to have figured something out that you haven’t. And most of the time, you don’t think to question it. You just take wha

Lindsey Elliott coaching video: Stop Trying to Fix Yourself — why personal development can become its own trap and what changes when you stop treating yourself as a project. Watch the full video: Stop Trying to 'Fix' Yourself. What if the reason nothing has worked isn't because you haven't tried hard enough, but because you were never broken in the first place? You’ve tried the therapy, the journaling, the breathwork, the affirmations, the nervous system work, the meditation.

Video Lindsey Elliott title You Already Know We talk about delay as if it’s harmless. As if waiting is the sensible, measured, responsible thing to do. We tell ourselves “I’ll get to it,” or “I just need a bit more time,” or “when things settle down.” And it sounds reasonable. It sounds like a woman being thoughtful. But delay is not a pause. It’s a direction. Every month spent going around the same thoughts, you’re not standing still. You’re moving further into a version of

Many women believe they need to build more confidence. So they spend years working on themselves. Reading books. Taking courses. Trying to become a better, more secure version of who they are. But what if the real issue is not low self-esteem at all? What if the problem is simply believing the thoughts that say you are not enough? If your worth was never created by thought, it cannot actually be reduced by it either. In this podcast conversation with Becca Gardner on The Thou

Video: What If Your Brain Isn’t Broken? Understanding Anxiety and the Human Mind Many people who struggle with anxiety quietly believe there is something wrong with them. They think they are too sensitive. Too reactive. Too quick to panic. But what if your brain is not broken at all? What if it is simply running an older survival system that once helped humans stay alive? Thousands of years ago, the people who noticed danger first were the ones who kept the tribe safe. That s

Video: Why Your Mind Keeps Sending You Anxious Thoughts Most people know how social media algorithms work. Click on one video about anxiety, and suddenly your entire feed is full of them. Your mind is not that different. The more attention you give anxious thoughts, the more your mind assumes they are important. It keeps sending more of them your way. No wonder it can start to feel endless. But what most people have never been told is this: You do not have to engage with ever

Video: You Weren’t Born Anxious: Why Worry Isn’t Your Personality Most people who struggle with anxiety believe it is simply part of who they are. They describe themselves as someone who has always worried. Someone cautious. Someone whose mind never switches off. But if you look closely, something interesting appears. You were not born worrying about your job, your relationships, or your future. When we are young, the mind simply starts finding things to worry about. First it

Person covered in sticky notes If you’ve spent years trying to improve yourself, to feel more confident, less anxious, more “together”, you might have absorbed the idea that something in you needs fixing. I used to believe that too. Many of the women I work with are competent, capable and thoughtful. On the surface, they are functioning well. But internally, there is a constant sense of evaluation. Am I doing enough? Am I too much? Did I say the wrong thing? Over time, that i

Triggered by anxiety? Here’s why that’s not a setback We’ve been taught that if something triggers us, if a wave of anxiety hits out of nowhere, it means we’re not coping well. That we’re stuck. That there’s something wrong with us. But that’s not what’s happening. In this video, I share a personal story about something traumatic that happened when one of my dogs was hit by a car (he survived, don’t worry). What followed — the anxiety, the flashbacks, the fear of repeating th

I recently watched the Victoria Beckham documentary, and one moment at the end really struck me because it captures the heart of what I help people see in my work. In the final scene, David asks Victoria why she still feels she has something to prove, and he suggests that maybe she’s trying to prove to herself that she’s good enough. It’s such a powerful reflection of what so many of us do — chasing success, approval, or achievement in the hope that one day we’ll finally fee

Some problems in life are real and practical — things like finding a new job, ending a relationship, or saving money for a holiday. You’ll know when those are solved because there’s a clear outcome. But many of the things we call “problems” aren’t actually problems at all — they’re thoughts about ourselves, our worth, or what other people think. And those can’t be fixed by more thinking, because they only exist in thought. In this short video, I share two simple questions tha

We’re often told that the way to solve a problem is to think about it — harder, longer, and deeper. But what if that’s actually the thing keeping you stuck? In this short video, I share a simple metaphor that might completely change the way you see overthinking, and help you find clarity when your mind feels full and noisy. 🎥 Watch now to see why thinking less can bring the answers you’ve been looking for. Please sign up to my mailing list to receive new videos as they are

Have you ever wondered why, no matter how much you achieve, there’s still a quiet voice inside saying you’re not quite good enough? I was reminded of this recently while watching the Victoria Beckham documentary . In the final scene, David asks Victoria why she’s still so driven, what she’s still trying to prove. Her response? She’s proving it to herself. That simple exchange was powerful. Because it reveals something we all experience in different ways: no amount of success,

We all have moments when we do something we don’t like — maybe we snap, defend ourselves, or act in a way that feels out of line with who we want to be. Then the shame hits. We promise ourselves that next time we’ll be calmer, kinder, more in control… and yet the same pattern plays out again. In this week’s video, I respond to a listener’s question about this exact experience — a habitual reaction that feels impossible to stop and leaves her feeling embarrassed and ashamed.

In this video, I bust a myth that many of us have grown up believing: that other people are responsible for how we feel. This is often a sticking point for many of my 1:1 clients—and understandably so. When someone says something hurtful or behaves badly, it feels like they’re causing our emotional reaction. But is that the full picture? I explore: Why your mood plays such a big role in how you experience other people’s words or actions How believing something about yourself

In this short video, I explore a pattern I see so often—especially in those of us who are thoughtful, motivated, or on any kind of self-development path: the belief that being hard on ourselves is necessary for change. We’re often told (directly or indirectly) that pushing, striving, and self-criticism are what keep us on track—whether it’s with our health, career, relationships, or personal goals. But what if that pressure isn’t helping? I talk about: Why self-criticism feel

In this short video, I share a powerful personal story about one of my closest friends, who is currently facing a potentially life-altering health crisis. It’s a stark and emotional example—but also a deeply human reminder of something important: 💡 We are far more resilient than we think. I explore: Why we think we can’t handle certain things—and why that’s just the mind talking The difference between imagining a crisis and actually living through one How real strength show

In this short video, I’m out in the field (literally!) with my dog Ash, sharing a few thoughts on procrastination—why we do it, what it means, and how to move through it. Whether you're putting off a difficult conversation, hesitating on a life change, or just stuck in that familiar cycle of "I'll deal with it later," this is a gentle encouragement for you. I talk about: Why our minds resist change (even when we want it) How fear and hesitation are part of the process—not a

Video You Are Not Broken Somewhere along the way, many of us picked up the idea that we’re not enough. That we need fixing. That our worth is something to earn or prove. We live in a world obsessed with self-improvement—but what if the constant need to fix yourself is the problem? In this short, powerful video, I use a simple example—my dog Ash—to remind us of what we’ve forgotten: your worth isn’t based on how you feel, what you’ve been through, or how well you’re doing at