Triggered by anxiety? Here’s why that’s not a setback We’ve been taught that if something triggers us, if a wave of anxiety hits out of nowhere, it means we’re not coping well. That we’re stuck. That there’s something wrong with us. But that’s not what’s happening. In this video, I share a personal story about something traumatic that happened when one of my dogs was hit by a car (he survived, don’t worry). What followed — the anxiety, the flashbacks, the fear of repeating the experience —...

I recently watched the Victoria Beckham  documentary, and one moment at the end really struck me because it captures the heart of what I help people see in my work. In the final scene, David asks Victoria why she still feels she has something to prove, and he suggests that maybe she’s trying to prove to herself that she’s good enough. It’s such a powerful reflection of what so many of us do — chasing success, approval, or achievement in the hope that one day we’ll finally feel okay. But that...

Some problems in life are real and practical — things like finding a new job, ending a relationship, or saving money for a holiday. You’ll know when those are solved because there’s a clear outcome. But many of the things we call “problems” aren’t actually problems at all — they’re thoughts about ourselves, our worth, or what other people think. And those can’t be fixed by more thinking, because they only exist in thought. In this short video, I share two simple questions that help you tell...