Have you ever wondered why, no matter how much you achieve, there’s still a quiet voice inside saying you’re not quite good enough? I was reminded of this recently while watching the Victoria Beckham documentary . In the final scene, David asks Victoria why she’s still so driven, what she’s still trying to prove. Her response? She’s proving it to herself. That simple exchange was powerful. Because it reveals something we all experience in different ways: no amount of success,

We all have moments when we do something we don’t like — maybe we snap, defend ourselves, or act in a way that feels out of line with who we want to be. Then the shame hits. We promise ourselves that next time  we’ll be calmer, kinder, more in control… and yet the same pattern plays out again. In this week’s video, I respond to a listener’s question about this exact experience — a habitual reaction that feels impossible to stop and leaves her feeling embarrassed and ashamed.

In this video, I bust a myth that many of us have grown up believing: that other people are responsible for how we feel. This is often a sticking point for many of my 1:1 clients—and understandably so. When someone says something hurtful or behaves badly, it feels  like they’re causing our emotional reaction. But is that the full picture? I explore: Why your mood plays such a big role in how you experience other people’s words or actions How believing something about yourself

In this short video, I explore a pattern I see so often—especially in those of us who are thoughtful, motivated, or on any kind of self-development path: the belief that being hard on ourselves is necessary for change. We’re often told (directly or indirectly) that pushing, striving, and self-criticism are what keep us on track—whether it’s with our health, career, relationships, or personal goals. But what if that pressure isn’t helping? I talk about: Why self-criticism feel

In this short video, I share a powerful personal story about one of my closest friends, who is currently facing a potentially life-altering health crisis. It’s a stark and emotional example—but also a deeply human reminder of something important: 💡 We are far more resilient than we think. I explore: Why we think  we can’t handle certain things—and why that’s just the mind talking The difference between imagining a crisis and actually living through one How real strength show

In this short video, I’m out in the field (literally!) with my dog Ash, sharing a few thoughts on procrastination—why we do it, what it means, and how to move through it. Whether you're putting off a difficult conversation, hesitating on a life change, or just stuck in that familiar cycle of "I'll deal with it later," this is a gentle encouragement for you. I talk about: Why our minds resist change (even when we want  it) How fear and hesitation are part of the process—not a

Video You Are Not Broken Somewhere along the way, many of us picked up the idea that we’re not enough. That we need fixing. That our worth is something to earn or prove. We live in a world obsessed with self-improvement—but what if the constant need to fix yourself is  the problem? In this short, powerful video, I use a simple example—my dog Ash—to remind us of what we’ve forgotten: your worth isn’t based on how you feel, what you’ve been through, or how well you’re doing at

There was a time in my life when I believed it was my job to manage my emotions. To make sure I only felt the good ones. To avoid or fix the uncomfortable ones. To stay on top of every shift in mood, always analysing and adjusting. It was exhausting and it didn't work. The turning point came when I stopped trying to control my emotional state—and just observed it instead. What I noticed changed everything. My emotions were already flowing on their own. I didn’t need to man

Always running late? Stressed before the day even starts? It might feel like the problem is your schedule—or your life—but it’s not. What’s really driving the rush and overwhelm is something much deeper (and far more solvable). In this video, I break down what’s actually  happening when you feel frantic, behind, or like you can’t keep up. It’s not about time. It’s about a state of mind that makes everything feel urgent—even when it’s not. This insight can change how you exper

Welcome to a fresh take on the New Year, New You concept. Unlike typical resolutions, this video challenges the myths around self-improvement at the year's end 🎉 As the year comes to a close, many of us start reflecting on the past year and planning for the next. Society and media bombard us with messages that we need to change and improve ourselves, and reach certain standards. But is that really necessary? 🤔 In this video, I'll help you see through the myths and pressures

In this video, I'm diving into an important topic for us all: What do I want? As the year draws to a close, it’s a perfect time to reflect on your past year and start contemplating the next. Whether you're setting new goals or contemplating changes, I’m here to guide you to clarify why you want what you want. And importantly, to check if what you want is actually achievable though the goal you desire. *Why It’s Important:* Reflect on your past year and look ahead with clarity

In this video, I explore the heart of why we often resist feeling the full spectrum of our emotions, even the positive ones like love and joy. It's time to uncover the truth about emotions and release the fear that holds us back. Key Points Covered: Understanding Our Fear:  Discover why we tend to avoid certain emotions and how this fear limits our emotional experience. Myths About Emotions:  Learn about the common misconceptions that make us believe emotions are unsafe or

In this video we're diving into a topic that affects many of us: Job security and performance. Have you ever felt insecure about your job title, performance, or salary? You're not alone! In this video, we explore how attaching our sense of worth to external factors like job performance can lead to insecurity. Key Takeaways: - Insecure Thinking: Discover how our thoughts and feelings about job security can change and why this leads to insecurity. - Internal Security: Learn wh

Does it feel like everyone else feels confident and secure? And you are constantly not sure of yourself, don’t feel good enough or think you are worth the best that life has to offer? You may have been trying to feel good enough and secure within yourself by reading books, going on workshops, writing affirmations, journaling, meditating, tapping, clearing out limiting beliefs, clearing away blocks, or pursuing the ‘ideal’ life. But what if it’s much easier and simpler than al

Are you feeling trapped by persistent habits or addiction, despite your efforts to break free? Have traditional approaches left you feeling disillusioned? It's time for a fresh perspective. You may have been told that you simply need to be more disciplined, or have more willpower, in order to change your unwanted habits or addiction, but what if this isn’t true? In this course I explore a different perspective on understanding, and overcoming, habits and addictions. This is

In this video, Suzie Yeulett and I dive deeper into the topic of anxiety at work, a common issue that many people face. We discuss how situations like high-stake meetings or presentations can feel intimidating and often trigger fear. Interestingly, these fears are rooted in our thoughts rather than the actual event itself. We explore the power of thought and how it shapes our experiences. For example, two people can have entirely different reactions to the same fairground ri

Like this video? Please like and subscribe to my YouTube channel .   Please sign up  to my mailing list to receive new videos as they are released, exclusive offers AND my free e-book ‘Navigating Change: 3 Keys For Success’. If you are ready for freedom from procrastination and struggle, work with me 1:1 in my Change Catalyst Coaching  programme to help you finally get there.

Struggling with #procrastination? You already know how to do things you don’t ‘feel’ like doing! Like this video? Please like and subscribe to my YouTube channel .   Please sign up  to my mailing list to receive new videos as they are released, exclusive offers AND my free e-book ‘Navigating Change: 3 Keys For Success’. If you are ready for freedom from procrastination, work with me 1:1 in my Change Catalyst Coaching  programme to help you finally get there.

The Cambridge dictionary definition of procrastination is: ‘ the act of delaying something that must be done, often because it is unpleasant or boring ’. I would also add to that, ‘ something we believe is hard or we won’t be able to achieve or complete’. Almost all of us will have experienced doing something trivial or mindless instead of getting on with the task we really need to be doing. We might find ourselves putting off writing a report, doing our homework or compet

One of the greatest myths that bobs about on socials is that we need to 'build' our self-esteem, confidence and worth. Not only is this hard work and effort, results are rarely long-lasting. What if there is a simpler understanding of our self-esteem that takes away all the hard work and striving? If you are ready to find out, I'll be exploring this and so much more in my upcoming 4-week course, You Are Enough . We start on 31st October 2023. I would love for you to join me x