Guilt isn't proof you've done anything wrong. It's a sign you're believing your inner critic. Here are the three places she hides it.

Have you ever sat down to watch a show, pick up a book, or simply stare out the window, only to feel a subtle, nagging itch in the back of your mind within five minutes? That persistent little voice whispers: “Shouldn’t you be doing something useful right now? Have you actually earned this?” If that internal interrogation sounds familiar, you are far from alone. There is a heavy, silent cloud of guilt around how we use our time. We live in a culture that glorifies endle

Ever feel like there’s a persistent, critical voice in your head constantly pointing out where you’ve fallen short? If you’ve spent years navigating diagnosed or undiagnosed ADHD, it’s all too easy to internalise that chatter, mistakenly believing that struggles with executive function mean you’re unintelligent, incapable, or somehow broken. In the latest episode of Gifted with ADHD, host Juliet sits down with Certified Change Coach Lindsey Elliott to unpack the mechanics of

If your answer to "How are you?" is usually "Busy," it might not be your life that needs looking at. It might be your thinking about it.

Prefer to watch instead of read? Press play on the video above! If you’re a parent, there is a very high chance you believe a subtle lie that society would have us believe: that the more you worry about your children, the more it means you love them. We expect worry when they’re babies and toddlers, right? But lately, I’ve been having conversation after conversation with clients who have full-grown, adult children, and they are still trapped in the exact same exhausting loop

If you are someone who has spent years working on yourself, reading numerous books, always got a course on the go, trying all the techniques, there can be a subtle thought running underneath all of it. Something like: there is something wrong with me that I need to fix. It kind of makes sense. You have tried so many things and none of them have quite stuck, so the mind decides the problem must be you. Something deeper, harder to reach, something that makes you the exception.

How to Trust Your Intuition video by Lindsey Elliott If you’ve started to see the voice in your head for what it is — a conditioned, critical pattern, not the truth about you — there’s a question that almost always follows. And until it’s answered, the rest doesn’t fully make sense. The question is this: if I’m not meant to listen to that voice, if I’m meant to take my hands off the wheel, then who on earth is driving? It’s a fair question. Because that voice — I call her Sue

Video by Lindsey Elliott Coaching Why You Edit Yourself There’s a particular tiredness that comes from managing how you’re seen. You soften an opinion so you don’t offend someone. You reread a message four times, checking it doesn’t come across wrong. You laugh at something you didn’t find funny. You say “it’s fine” when it isn’t. You leave a perfectly good conversation and immediately wonder what they really thought of you. From the outside you look confident and capable. Pe

The mechanical reason your mind loops — and how to interrupt it without a complex technique. You speak up in a meeting, share your perspective, and the meeting ends. Outwardly you move on. But internally, the mental review begins, and for the next twelve hours your mind replays the conversation on a loop. Why did I say it like that? Did I sound silly? What did they think when I paused? Or maybe it’s a decision. A boundary to set, a holiday to book, a change in your business.

Why You Can't Switch Off video by Lindsey Elliott There’s a particular tiredness that many capable women carry without ever recognising it. It isn’t about workload. It’s the feeling of never quite being able to put anything down. You triple-check the email before you send it. You over-prepare for the meeting that didn’t really need it. You say yes when you meant no, because letting someone down feels somehow dangerous. You lie awake dreading a conversation that, deep down, yo

Video by lindsey Elliott about the voice in your head. You have a good life. You’re clever and capable, and you’re the one other people lean on. From the outside you look calm and grounded, the person who has it all together. And yet, on the inside, your mind never quite switches off. Most people in your life would be surprised to know how much time you spend in your own head. They see the competent version. What they don’t see is the fortune of energy you spend managing the

Video by Lindsey Elliott Coaching How To Stop Believing The Voice in Your Head If you’ve spent any time trying to deal with the voice in your head, sometimes referred to as the inner critic, you'll know it picks apart your decisions, replays conversations, and tells you you’re not handling things as well as you should. And you’ve probably tried a few of the usual approaches. Reframing what it says. Talking back to it. Being kinder to yourself. Picturing it as a small, angry c