Have you ever sat down to watch a show, pick up a book, or simply stare out the window, only to feel a subtle, nagging itch in the back of your mind within five minutes? That persistent little voice whispers: “Shouldn’t you be doing something useful right now? Have you actually earned this?” If that internal interrogation sounds familiar, you are far from alone. There is a heavy, silent cloud of guilt around how we use our time. We live in a culture that glorifies endle

Ever feel like there’s a persistent, critical voice in your head constantly pointing out where you’ve fallen short? If you’ve spent years navigating diagnosed or undiagnosed ADHD, it’s all too easy to internalise that chatter, mistakenly believing that struggles with executive function mean you’re unintelligent, incapable, or somehow broken. In the latest episode of Gifted with ADHD, host Juliet sits down with Certified Change Coach Lindsey Elliott to unpack the mechanics of

If your answer to "How are you?" is usually "Busy," it might not be your life that needs looking at. It might be your thinking about it.

If you are someone who has spent years working on yourself, reading numerous books, always got a course on the go, trying all the techniques, there can be a subtle thought running underneath all of it. Something like: there is something wrong with me that I need to fix. It kind of makes sense. You have tried so many things and none of them have quite stuck, so the mind decides the problem must be you. Something deeper, harder to reach, something that makes you the exception.

How to Trust Your Intuition video by Lindsey Elliott If you’ve started to see the voice in your head for what it is — a conditioned, critical pattern, not the truth about you — there’s a question that almost always follows. And until it’s answered, the rest doesn’t fully make sense. The question is this: if I’m not meant to listen to that voice, if I’m meant to take my hands off the wheel, then who on earth is driving? It’s a fair question. Because that voice — I call her Sue

The mechanical reason your mind loops — and how to interrupt it without a complex technique. You speak up in a meeting, share your perspective, and the meeting ends. Outwardly you move on. But internally, the mental review begins, and for the next twelve hours your mind replays the conversation on a loop. Why did I say it like that? Did I sound silly? What did they think when I paused? Or maybe it’s a decision. A boundary to set, a holiday to book, a change in your business.

Many women believe they need to build more confidence. So they spend years working on themselves. Reading books. Taking courses. Trying to become a better, more secure version of who they are. But what if the real issue is not low self-esteem at all? What if the problem is simply believing the thoughts that say you are not enough? If your worth was never created by thought, it cannot actually be reduced by it either. In this podcast conversation with Becca Gardner on The Thou

Video: What If Your Brain Isn’t Broken? Understanding Anxiety and the Human Mind Many people who struggle with anxiety quietly believe there is something wrong with them. They think they are too sensitive. Too reactive. Too quick to panic. But what if your brain is not broken at all? What if it is simply running an older survival system that once helped humans stay alive? Thousands of years ago, the people who noticed danger first were the ones who kept the tribe safe. That s

Person covered in sticky notes If you’ve spent years trying to improve yourself, to feel more confident, less anxious, more “together”, you might have absorbed the idea that something in you needs fixing. I used to believe that too. Many of the women I work with are competent, capable and thoughtful. On the surface, they are functioning well. But internally, there is a constant sense of evaluation. Am I doing enough? Am I too much? Did I say the wrong thing? Over time, that i

Some problems in life are real and practical — things like finding a new job, ending a relationship, or saving money for a holiday. You’ll know when those are solved because there’s a clear outcome. But many of the things we call “problems” aren’t actually problems at all — they’re thoughts about ourselves, our worth, or what other people think. And those can’t be fixed by more thinking, because they only exist in thought. In this short video, I share two simple questions tha

We’re often told that the way to solve a problem is to think about it — harder, longer, and deeper. But what if that’s actually the thing keeping you stuck? In this short video, I share a simple metaphor that might completely change the way you see overthinking, and help you find clarity when your mind feels full and noisy. 🎥 Watch now to see why thinking less can bring the answers you’ve been looking for. Please sign up to my mailing list to receive new videos as they are

There was a time in my life when I believed it was my job to manage my emotions. To make sure I only felt the good ones. To avoid or fix the uncomfortable ones. To stay on top of every shift in mood, always analysing and adjusting. It was exhausting and it didn't work. The turning point came when I stopped trying to control my emotional state—and just observed it instead. What I noticed changed everything. My emotions were already flowing on their own. I didn’t need to man

In this video, I explore the heart of why we often resist feeling the full spectrum of our emotions, even the positive ones like love and joy. It's time to uncover the truth about emotions and release the fear that holds us back. Key Points Covered: Understanding Our Fear: Discover why we tend to avoid certain emotions and how this fear limits our emotional experience. Myths About Emotions: Learn about the common misconceptions that make us believe emotions are unsafe or

Unlocking More Time and Ease in Your Life: A Four-Part Video Series Have you ever felt like your mental to-do list is endlessly expanding, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and drained? Imagine if you could lighten that load and reclaim your time and energy for what truly matters. In this transformative four-video series, we embark on a journey to explore major life areas that often consume our precious resources when we believe we must manage or control them. Discover a New Pe

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