Low Self-Esteem Isn’t the Problem: Why You Feel Like You’re Not Enough

Many women believe they need to build more confidence.

So they spend years working on themselves. Reading books. Taking courses. Trying to become a better, more secure version of who they are.

But what if the real issue is not low self-esteem at all?

What if the problem is simply believing the thoughts that say you are not enough?

If your worth was never created by thought, it cannot actually be reduced by it either.

In this podcast conversation with Becca Gardner on The Thought Trap, I talk about why the idea of self-esteem can keep women stuck in endless self-improvement, and what begins to change when you see something simpler about how the mind works.

What this means for self-worth and insecurity

Most people believe they need to improve the image they have of themselves.

Think better thoughts. Build confidence. Fix the insecurity.

But when you begin to see that worth was never created by thinking in the first place, the whole structure of insecurity starts to look different.

Why do I feel like I’m not enough?

Many people assume this feeling comes from a lack of confidence or self-esteem.

But often the experience of “not being enough” is being created by the thoughts we are having about ourselves in the moment.

When those thoughts are taken as facts, insecurity feels real and convincing.

When they are seen for what they are, the pressure to constantly improve or fix yourself begins to ease.

You can listen to the full conversation here:

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