Many women believe they need to build more confidence. So they spend years working on themselves. Reading books. Taking courses. Trying to become a better, more secure version of who they are. But what if the real issue is not low self-esteem at all? What if the problem is simply believing the thoughts that say you are not enough? If your worth was never created by thought, it cannot actually be reduced by it either. In this podcast conversation with Becca Gardner on The Thou

Video: You Weren’t Born Anxious: Why Worry Isn’t Your Personality Most people who struggle with anxiety believe it is simply part of who they are. They describe themselves as someone who has always worried. Someone cautious. Someone whose mind never switches off. But if you look closely, something interesting appears. You were not born worrying about your job, your relationships, or your future. When we are young, the mind simply starts finding things to worry about. First it

Person covered in sticky notes If you’ve spent years trying to improve yourself, to feel more confident, less anxious, more “together”, you might have absorbed the idea that something in you needs fixing. I used to believe that too. Many of the women I work with are competent, capable and thoughtful. On the surface, they are functioning well. But internally, there is a constant sense of evaluation. Am I doing enough? Am I too much? Did I say the wrong thing? Over time, that i

Have you ever wondered why, no matter how much you achieve, there’s still a quiet voice inside saying you’re not quite good enough? I was reminded of this recently while watching the Victoria Beckham documentary . In the final scene, David asks Victoria why she’s still so driven, what she’s still trying to prove. Her response? She’s proving it to herself. That simple exchange was powerful. Because it reveals something we all experience in different ways: no amount of success,

In this short video, I explore a pattern I see so often—especially in those of us who are thoughtful, motivated, or on any kind of self-development path: the belief that being hard on ourselves is necessary for change. We’re often told (directly or indirectly) that pushing, striving, and self-criticism are what keep us on track—whether it’s with our health, career, relationships, or personal goals. But what if that pressure isn’t helping? I talk about: Why self-criticism feel

In this short video, I share a powerful personal story about one of my closest friends, who is currently facing a potentially life-altering health crisis. It’s a stark and emotional example—but also a deeply human reminder of something important: 💡 We are far more resilient than we think. I explore: Why we think  we can’t handle certain things—and why that’s just the mind talking The difference between imagining a crisis and actually living through one How real strength show

In this short video, I’m out in the field (literally!) with my dog Ash, sharing a few thoughts on procrastination—why we do it, what it means, and how to move through it. Whether you're putting off a difficult conversation, hesitating on a life change, or just stuck in that familiar cycle of "I'll deal with it later," this is a gentle encouragement for you. I talk about: Why our minds resist change (even when we want  it) How fear and hesitation are part of the process—not a