Video by Lindsey Elliott Coaching Why You Edit Yourself There’s a particular tiredness that comes from managing how you’re seen. You soften an opinion so you don’t offend someone. You reread a message four times, checking it doesn’t come across wrong. You laugh at something you didn’t find funny. You say “it’s fine” when it isn’t. You leave a perfectly good conversation and immediately wonder what they really thought of you. From the outside you look confident and capable. Pe

The mechanical reason your mind loops — and how to interrupt it without a complex technique. You speak up in a meeting, share your perspective, and the meeting ends. Outwardly you move on. But internally, the mental review begins, and for the next twelve hours your mind replays the conversation on a loop. Why did I say it like that? Did I sound silly? What did they think when I paused? Or maybe it’s a decision. A boundary to set, a holiday to book, a change in your business.

Video by lindsey Elliott about the voice in your head. You have a good life. You’re clever and capable, and you’re the one other people lean on. From the outside you look calm and grounded, the person who has it all together. And yet, on the inside, your mind never quite switches off. Most people in your life would be surprised to know how much time you spend in your own head. They see the competent version. What they don’t see is the fortune of energy you spend managing the

Video by Lindsey Elliott Coaching How To Stop Believing The Voice in Your Head If you’ve spent any time trying to deal with the voice in your head, sometimes referred to as the inner critic, you'll know it picks apart your decisions, replays conversations, and tells you you’re not handling things as well as you should. And you’ve probably tried a few of the usual approaches. Reframing what it says. Talking back to it. Being kinder to yourself. Picturing it as a small, angry c

Many women believe they need to build more confidence. So they spend years working on themselves. Reading books. Taking courses. Trying to become a better, more secure version of who they are. But what if the real issue is not low self-esteem at all? What if the problem is simply believing the thoughts that say you are not enough? If your worth was never created by thought, it cannot actually be reduced by it either. In this podcast conversation with Becca Gardner on The Thou

Video: You Weren’t Born Anxious: Why Worry Isn’t Your Personality Most people who struggle with anxiety believe it is simply part of who they are. They describe themselves as someone who has always worried. Someone cautious. Someone whose mind never switches off. But if you look closely, something interesting appears. You were not born worrying about your job, your relationships, or your future. When we are young, the mind simply starts finding things to worry about. First it

Person covered in sticky notes If you’ve spent years trying to improve yourself, to feel more confident, less anxious, more “together”, you might have absorbed the idea that something in you needs fixing. I used to believe that too. Many of the women I work with are competent, capable and thoughtful. On the surface, they are functioning well. But internally, there is a constant sense of evaluation. Am I doing enough? Am I too much? Did I say the wrong thing? Over time, that i

Have you ever wondered why, no matter how much you achieve, there’s still a quiet voice inside saying you’re not quite good enough? I was reminded of this recently while watching the Victoria Beckham documentary. In the final scene, David asks Victoria why she’s still so driven, what she’s still trying to prove. Her response? She’s proving it to herself. That simple exchange was powerful. Because it reveals something we all experience in different ways: no amount of success,

In this short video, I explore a pattern I see so often—especially in those of us who are thoughtful, motivated, or on any kind of self-development path: the belief that being hard on ourselves is necessary for change. We’re often told (directly or indirectly) that pushing, striving, and self-criticism are what keep us on track—whether it’s with our health, career, relationships, or personal goals. But what if that pressure isn’t helping? I talk about: Why self-criticism feel

In this short video, I share a powerful personal story about one of my closest friends, who is currently facing a potentially life-altering health crisis. It’s a stark and emotional example—but also a deeply human reminder of something important: 💡 We are far more resilient than we think. I explore: Why we think we can’t handle certain things—and why that’s just the mind talking The difference between imagining a crisis and actually living through one How real strength show

In this short video, I’m out in the field (literally!) with my dog Ash, sharing a few thoughts on procrastination—why we do it, what it means, and how to move through it. Whether you're putting off a difficult conversation, hesitating on a life change, or just stuck in that familiar cycle of "I'll deal with it later," this is a gentle encouragement for you. I talk about: Why our minds resist change (even when we want it) How fear and hesitation are part of the process—not a