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It seems pretty universal that we have some flavour of not-good-enough running through our minds, but what if we don't have to take this so seriously, as it has NOTHING to do with who we are? Rob asks me a question about low self-esteem and how he has struggled with this his whole life. Listen in as I talk through a helpful metaphor, (that's why I'm pointing to the cup!) to explain where the experience of low self-esteem comes from, and how it hasn't got anything to do with w