Many women believe they need to build more confidence. So they spend years working on themselves. Reading books. Taking courses. Trying to become a better, more secure version of who they are. But what if the real issue is not low self-esteem at all? What if the problem is simply believing the thoughts that say you are not enough? If your worth was never created by thought, it cannot actually be reduced by it either. In this podcast conversation with Becca Gardner on The Thou

Video: What If Your Brain Isn’t Broken? Understanding Anxiety and the Human Mind Many people who struggle with anxiety quietly believe there is something wrong with them. They think they are too sensitive. Too reactive. Too quick to panic. But what if your brain is not broken at all? What if it is simply running an older survival system that once helped humans stay alive? Thousands of years ago, the people who noticed danger first were the ones who kept the tribe safe. That s

Video: Why Your Mind Keeps Sending You Anxious Thoughts Most people know how social media algorithms work. Click on one video about anxiety, and suddenly your entire feed is full of them. Your mind is not that different. The more attention you give anxious thoughts, the more your mind assumes they are important. It keeps sending more of them your way. No wonder it can start to feel endless. But what most people have never been told is this: You do not have to engage with ever

I recently watched the Victoria Beckham  documentary, and one moment at the end really struck me because it captures the heart of what I help people see in my work. In the final scene, David asks Victoria why she still feels she has something to prove, and he suggests that maybe she’s trying to prove to herself that she’s good enough. It’s such a powerful reflection of what so many of us do — chasing success, approval, or achievement in the hope that one day we’ll finally fee

Have you ever wondered why, no matter how much you achieve, there’s still a quiet voice inside saying you’re not quite good enough? I was reminded of this recently while watching the Victoria Beckham documentary . In the final scene, David asks Victoria why she’s still so driven, what she’s still trying to prove. Her response? She’s proving it to herself. That simple exchange was powerful. Because it reveals something we all experience in different ways: no amount of success,

In this short video, I share a powerful personal story about one of my closest friends, who is currently facing a potentially life-altering health crisis. It’s a stark and emotional example—but also a deeply human reminder of something important: 💡 We are far more resilient than we think. I explore: Why we think  we can’t handle certain things—and why that’s just the mind talking The difference between imagining a crisis and actually living through one How real strength show

Welcome to a fresh take on the New Year, New You concept. Unlike typical resolutions, this video challenges the myths around self-improvement at the year's end 🎉 As the year comes to a close, many of us start reflecting on the past year and planning for the next. Society and media bombard us with messages that we need to change and improve ourselves, and reach certain standards. But is that really necessary? 🤔 In this video, I'll help you see through the myths and pressures

In this video we're diving into a topic that affects many of us: Job security and performance. Have you ever felt insecure about your job title, performance, or salary? You're not alone! In this video, we explore how attaching our sense of worth to external factors like job performance can lead to insecurity. Key Takeaways: - Insecure Thinking: Discover how our thoughts and feelings about job security can change and why this leads to insecurity. - Internal Security: Learn wh

Does it feel like everyone else feels confident and secure? And you are constantly not sure of yourself, don’t feel good enough or think you are worth the best that life has to offer? You may have been trying to feel good enough and secure within yourself by reading books, going on workshops, writing affirmations, journaling, meditating, tapping, clearing out limiting beliefs, clearing away blocks, or pursuing the ‘ideal’ life. But what if it’s much easier and simpler than al

Video Four in Unlocking More Time and Ease in Your Life: A Four-Part Video Series Welcome to the final instalment of my free four-part series, 'Unlocking More Time and Ease in Your Life'. In this series I explore major life areas that often consume our precious resources when we believe we must manage or control them. Video Four: Trusting Your Inner Compass In this culminating video, I delve into the heart of making decisions with confidence and peace. If you've ever found yo

Unlocking More Time and Ease in Your Life: A Four-Part Video Series Have you ever felt like your mental to-do list is endlessly expanding, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and drained? Imagine if you could lighten that load and reclaim your time and energy for what truly matters. In this transformative four-video series, we embark on a journey to explore major life areas that often consume our precious resources when we believe we must manage or control them. Discover a New Pe

So much of our experience of anxiety and worry is about things that haven't even happened yet. It can feel useful to think about what might happen in preparation for challenging events or feelings. But so much of what our minds wander off worrying about doesn't actually happen! Use this phrase as a reminder to yourself when you are lost in worry and future based thinking. Like this video? Please like and subscribe to my YouTube channel .   Please sign up  to my mailing list

When we feel nervous to start new things, this can sometimes put us off from even trying. But what if feeling nervous isn't something we have to take so seriously? It's simply an evolutionary response our brain has to the unknown and uncertainty. This leaves us free to try whatever the heck new things we want to! Like this video? Please like and subscribe to my YouTube channel .   Please sign up  to my mailing list to receive new videos as they are released, exclusive offers

The Cambridge dictionary definition of procrastination is: ‘ the act of delaying something that must be done, often because it is unpleasant or boring ’. I would also add to that, ‘ something we believe is hard or we won’t be able to achieve or complete’. Almost all of us will have experienced doing something trivial or mindless instead of getting on with the task we really need to be doing. We might find ourselves putting off writing a report, doing our homework or compet

One of the greatest myths that bobs about on socials is that we need to 'build' our self-esteem, confidence and worth. Not only is this hard work and effort, results are rarely long-lasting. What if there is a simpler understanding of our self-esteem that takes away all the hard work and striving? If you are ready to find out, I'll be exploring this and so much more in my upcoming 4-week course, You Are Enough . We start on 31st October 2023. I would love for you to join me x

People who don't like making mistakes often believe their self-esteem is directly impacted by how well we do in life. But what if this correlation isn't true? And that making mistakes is how we learn and grow as adults, not just as little kids. I'll be exploring this and so much more in my upcoming 4-week course, You Are Enough . If you hate making mistakes, this could be just the course for you! We start on 31st October 2023. I would love for you to join me x Like this video

When we experience a lot of insecure thoughts about ourselves, or have think we aren't good enough, we can believe this means we ARE insecure and need to fix ourselves. The commentary that goes on in your head, about YOU and how you are doing, makes it all seem to real. But what if this the commentary in your head isn't speaking the truth, and doesn't mean you are insecure? Feeling secure and confident has nothing to do with what goes through our minds. I'll be exploring this

Worrying about what other people think of you is a common symptom when we feel insecure and have low self-esteem. There is a 'reason' for...

Worry and anxiety about the future is often based around believing we couldn't cope with something challenging if it happened. But if we...

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