Many women believe they need to build more confidence. So they spend years working on themselves. Reading books. Taking courses. Trying to become a better, more secure version of who they are. But what if the real issue is not low self-esteem at all? What if the problem is simply believing the thoughts that say you are not enough? If your worth was never created by thought, it cannot actually be reduced by it either. In this podcast conversation with Becca Gardner on The Thou

Person covered in sticky notes If you’ve spent years trying to improve yourself, to feel more confident, less anxious, more “together”, you might have absorbed the idea that something in you needs fixing. I used to believe that too. Many of the women I work with are competent, capable and thoughtful. On the surface, they are functioning well. But internally, there is a constant sense of evaluation. Am I doing enough? Am I too much? Did I say the wrong thing? Over time, that i

I recently watched the Victoria Beckham  documentary, and one moment at the end really struck me because it captures the heart of what I help people see in my work. In the final scene, David asks Victoria why she still feels she has something to prove, and he suggests that maybe she’s trying to prove to herself that she’s good enough. It’s such a powerful reflection of what so many of us do — chasing success, approval, or achievement in the hope that one day we’ll finally fee

Have you ever wondered why, no matter how much you achieve, there’s still a quiet voice inside saying you’re not quite good enough? I was reminded of this recently while watching the Victoria Beckham documentary . In the final scene, David asks Victoria why she’s still so driven, what she’s still trying to prove. Her response? She’s proving it to herself. That simple exchange was powerful. Because it reveals something we all experience in different ways: no amount of success,

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It seems pretty universal that we have some flavour of not-good-enough running through our minds, but what if we don't have to take this so seriously, as it has NOTHING to do with who we are? Rob asks me a question about low self-esteem and how he has struggled with this his whole life. Listen in as I talk through a helpful metaphor, (that's why I'm pointing to the cup!) to explain where the experience of low self-esteem comes from, and how it hasn't got anything to do with w