We all have moments when we do something we don’t like — maybe we snap, defend ourselves, or act in a way that feels out of line with who we want to be. Then the shame hits. We promise ourselves that next time  we’ll be calmer, kinder, more in control… and yet the same pattern plays out again. In this week’s video, I respond to a listener’s question about this exact experience — a habitual reaction that feels impossible to stop and leaves her feeling embarrassed and ashamed.

In this video, I bust a myth that many of us have grown up believing: that other people are responsible for how we feel. This is often a sticking point for many of my 1:1 clients—and understandably so. When someone says something hurtful or behaves badly, it feels  like they’re causing our emotional reaction. But is that the full picture? I explore: Why your mood plays such a big role in how you experience other people’s words or actions How believing something about yourself

In this short video, I explore a pattern I see so often—especially in those of us who are thoughtful, motivated, or on any kind of self-development path: the belief that being hard on ourselves is necessary for change. We’re often told (directly or indirectly) that pushing, striving, and self-criticism are what keep us on track—whether it’s with our health, career, relationships, or personal goals. But what if that pressure isn’t helping? I talk about: Why self-criticism feel

In this short video, I share a powerful personal story about one of my closest friends, who is currently facing a potentially life-altering health crisis. It’s a stark and emotional example—but also a deeply human reminder of something important: 💡 We are far more resilient than we think. I explore: Why we think  we can’t handle certain things—and why that’s just the mind talking The difference between imagining a crisis and actually living through one How real strength show

In this short video, I’m out in the field (literally!) with my dog Ash, sharing a few thoughts on procrastination—why we do it, what it means, and how to move through it. Whether you're putting off a difficult conversation, hesitating on a life change, or just stuck in that familiar cycle of "I'll deal with it later," this is a gentle encouragement for you. I talk about: Why our minds resist change (even when we want  it) How fear and hesitation are part of the process—not a

There was a time in my life when I believed it was my job to manage my emotions. To make sure I only felt the good ones. To avoid or fix the uncomfortable ones. To stay on top of every shift in mood, always analysing and adjusting. It was exhausting and it didn't work. The turning point came when I stopped trying to control my emotional state—and just observed it instead. What I noticed changed everything. My emotions were already flowing on their own. I didn’t need to man

In this video, I'm diving into an important topic for us all: What do I want? As the year draws to a close, it’s a perfect time to reflect on your past year and start contemplating the next. Whether you're setting new goals or contemplating changes, I’m here to guide you to clarify why you want what you want. And importantly, to check if what you want is actually achievable though the goal you desire. *Why It’s Important:* Reflect on your past year and look ahead with clarity

In this video, I explore the heart of why we often resist feeling the full spectrum of our emotions, even the positive ones like love and joy. It's time to uncover the truth about emotions and release the fear that holds us back. Key Points Covered: Understanding Our Fear:  Discover why we tend to avoid certain emotions and how this fear limits our emotional experience. Myths About Emotions:  Learn about the common misconceptions that make us believe emotions are unsafe or

Ask yourself this powerful question if you are caught up in #stress or #anxiety. Like this video? Please like and subscribe to my YouTube channel .   Please sign up  to my mailing list to receive new videos as they are released, exclusive offers AND my free e-book ‘Navigating Change: 3 Keys For Success’. If you are ready for freedom from stress, anxiety and overwhelm, work with me 1:1 in my Change Catalyst Coaching  programme to help you finally get there.

We engage in all sorts of people pleasing behaviours if we try to manage the reactions of others. But what if we don't have to do this? Enjoy this quick video to help navigate relationships with more ease. Like this video? Please like and subscribe to my YouTube channel .   Please sign up  to my mailing list to receive new videos as they are released, exclusive offers AND my free e-book ‘Navigating Change: 3 Keys For Success’. If you are ready for freedom from people pleasing

In this video, I dive into the thought that is causing all of your suffering: This shouldn't be happening. This simple yet powerful belief can manifest in many forms, such as ‘Why me?’ or ‘This isn't fair’, creating a cycle of resistance and pain. I explore how life's events are simply happening and our mind constantly narrates about them. But what if the real issue isn't the thought itself, but our belief in it? I share personal insights and examples, to illustrate how letti

In this episode, we dive into a crucial topic: Relationships at Work. Whether you’re dealing with difficult colleagues or navigating office dynamics, this discussion is packed with insights to help you thrive in your workplace relationships. What we covered: - Understanding Our True Nature: Learn how your feelings come from within and how recognizing this can transform your interactions. - Temporary Thoughts: Discover how giving space to your thoughts can create clarity and r

Does it feel like everyone else feels confident and secure? And you are constantly not sure of yourself, don’t feel good enough or think you are worth the best that life has to offer? You may have been trying to feel good enough and secure within yourself by reading books, going on workshops, writing affirmations, journaling, meditating, tapping, clearing out limiting beliefs, clearing away blocks, or pursuing the ‘ideal’ life. But what if it’s much easier and simpler than al

Are you feeling trapped by persistent habits or addiction, despite your efforts to break free? Have traditional approaches left you feeling disillusioned? It's time for a fresh perspective. You may have been told that you simply need to be more disciplined, or have more willpower, in order to change your unwanted habits or addiction, but what if this isn’t true? In this course I explore a different perspective on understanding, and overcoming, habits and addictions. This is

I’m thrilled to share with you an episode I recorded for the Spirit Of Enquiry podcast. Alongside fellow Change Coach Suzie Yeulett, we delved into a topic that frequently surfaces in our one-on-one coaching work: anxiety at work. Most of us spend a significant portion of our lives at work, and it can often be an environment that magnifies our insecurities, beliefs, and assumptions. This episode is packed with insights that could transform how you experience anxiety in your p

In this video, Suzie Yeulett and I dive deeper into the topic of anxiety at work, a common issue that many people face. We discuss how situations like high-stake meetings or presentations can feel intimidating and often trigger fear. Interestingly, these fears are rooted in our thoughts rather than the actual event itself. We explore the power of thought and how it shapes our experiences. For example, two people can have entirely different reactions to the same fairground ri

Do you ever feel like your mind is running a marathon, constantly filled with thoughts, worries, and what-ifs? If so, you're not alone. In this video, I dive deep into the concept of overthinking and how it impacts our daily lives. I explore what overthinking really is and the function of our mind in this process. Our minds are incredibly powerful tools, but sometimes they can become like a vacuum bag that's too full—clogged with too much thinking and unable to function effic

Video Four in Unlocking More Time and Ease in Your Life: A Four-Part Video Series Welcome to the final instalment of my free four-part series, 'Unlocking More Time and Ease in Your Life'. In this series I explore major life areas that often consume our precious resources when we believe we must manage or control them. Video Four: Trusting Your Inner Compass In this culminating video, I delve into the heart of making decisions with confidence and peace. If you've ever found yo

Have you ever felt like your mental to-do list is endlessly expanding, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and drained? Imagine if you could lighten that load and reclaim your time and energy for what truly matters. In this transformative four-part series, we embark on a journey to explore major life areas that often consume our precious resources when we believe we must manage or control them.   Discover a New Perspective   Each video is designed to guide you through releasing t

Unlocking More Time and Ease in Your Life: A Four-Part Video Series Have you ever felt like your mental to-do list is endlessly expanding, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and drained? Imagine if you could lighten that load and reclaim your time and energy for what truly matters. In this transformative four-video series, we embark on a journey to explore major life areas that often consume our precious resources when we believe we must manage or control them. Discover a New Pe