What if what you think isn't personal?


I’m going to say something potentially controversial, but also potentially liberating.


What if what you think, the thoughts that pass through your mind don’t belong to you?


I think most of us would agree that we humans are more than the body we inhabit; that there is something larger than ourselves at play here in our lives. We aren’t responsible for making our hearts beat, our lungs breathe, our legs walk. The life-force within us takes care of this.

So why do we get so caught up in believing every thought that runs through our minds, and beat ourselves up when we are thinking negatively? What if the same energy that beats our hearts, activates our immune system, grows trees is the same energy that gives us the experience of thinking?


I have come to see that we are the ‘awareness’ or ‘witness’ to what is occurring in our lives, and that includes our thinking. There are lots of thoughts that I wouldn’t choose to think. And I bet the same is true for you. So if I don’t want to be thinking certain thoughts, why can’t I stop them? Because we have no control over them, it’s simply energy flowing. And this means we can let them pass on through, like the weather passing through the sky.


Whilst we can consciously move our attention to think a specific thought, it doesn’t last long before another thought pops into our head….give it a try and see if for one or two minutes you can think one single thought. Hard eh!


We aren’t doing the thinking, it is being done through us. It’s a much less personal process that we believe it is. Our true self, our larger self is before thought.


The more we can see this, the more we can relax with what thoughts are occurring through us. And we get the opportunity to be more at peace and present with the life that is flowing through us. We don’t have to take our thinking so seriously or take it as truth.


I find this so liberating to know. It means I can give up trying to control my life experience and trying to ‘fix’ myself. And this naturally brings a much more peaceful, loving way of being.


If you have any questions or comments about this post, or this understanding of how the mind works, please do get in touch. I'd love to answer your questions! x



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