We all feel overwhelmed from time to time. It’s a normal human experience. But if we feel overwhelmed much of the time this can become debilitating for our mental and physical health. Life in our society seems rather conducive to feelings of overwhelm with all we ‘have’ to do, achieve and are responsible for. Particularly in the last year of the covid pandemic, many more people are experiencing feelings of overwhelm with so many changes and uncertainty around. It can sometime

Hello! I’m sharing here about the foundation from which we live our lives, where our security comes from and how we can live from a different foundation that is stable. As we round off this most unusual and challenging year (2020), I hope this provides you with a spark to reflect on what foundation or premise you are living life from, and if this is serving you well. Happy Christmas and 2021 to you xx . . . #lindseyelliotttransformationalcoach #resiliencecoach #wellbeingcoach

We often fear what might happen in the future because we believe we won't be able to cope. But if we look back over our life so far, we will see that without our having to do anything, we have adjusted and coped with challenging things. This is because our ability to cope is built into ALL of us, and we can always rely on it. It's part of the intelligent design of being human. . . . . #support #mentalhealth #lindseyelliotttransformationalcoach #resiliencecoach #wellbeingcoach

This is a picture of a little message printed on the inside of my eyelash serum box. I know it’s a pretty innocuous message designed for marketing purposes, but it speaks to a prevailing misunderstanding within our society, that anything outside of us can make us experience a good mood or a bad one. Yes, I know it SEEMS that way – that things in life happen and we feel one way or the other because of the ‘thing’ that is happening. If we look a little deeper at our experience,

Feelings of anxiety & worry are a brilliant feedback mechanism of the body to let us know how fast our thinking is going. We aren’t aware of the vast majority of our thought, it happens at an unconscious level. So it is incredibly useful that we have feelings in our body to reflect what is going on in our heads. Rather than a feeling to be avoided at all costs, what if anxiety is there to wake us up to all the conscious and unconscious noise in our heads? Waking us up to the

2020 might be feeling a bit unrelenting. The covid pandemic that we thought might be a few short weeks or months, is still here in our day to day lives. Do you find yourself feeling more mentally tired than normal? Maybe your mood feels generally low or anxious, or you are having trouble sleeping? Or you just feel exhausted a lot of the time? Maybe the uncertainty is feeling really heavy? I have certainly noticed with my clients and friends, an increase in people feeling ment

Here is my interview on the Precarious Parenting podcast with my friend and colleague Marie Arymar about my experience during the initial stages of lockdown (click on the link here and scroll down to podcast 6). This is a very honest and open interview where you'll hear me talking about: - The initial intense anxiety I experienced and how this affected my parenting - How 'what if-ing' is what minds like to do but why we can ignore this - How I saw through what my mind was doi

“Fear is not real..... It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present, and may not ever, exist. That is near insanity. Do not misunderstand me danger is very real but fear is a choice.” ~ Will Smith. Fear is normal part of the human experience, that everyone feels from time to time, to varying degrees. Whilst it is normal to experience fear, it doesn’t have to stop us doing what we want to with our lives. We innocently misunderstand what

As we begin to experience an ever-increasing easing of the lockdown restrictions here in the U.K, how are you feeling about it? For some of us, each new lifting of a restriction brings a feeling of excitement, and relief that life is beginning to return to ‘normal’( or maybe a new ‘normal’). It may mean that you are able to reopen your business or get back to work, which will ease things financially for you. Or some of us might be thrilled that at long last we can have a soci

A few days ago I had an insight about makeup. It was quite an innocent, small thought but it led me to see again that what I think isn’t necessarily true. I was thinking about a friend of mine who I know to be confident, grounded, strong, independent and resilient. Yet she always wears quite a lot of makeup. As I was mulling this over, I thought “That makeup must just be hiding insecurity”. And then the next thought that popped into my head was “On some days I wear makeup bec

I reflect here on how we have adapted and changed to the world situation with covid-19 without much preparation. We as humans have this ability naturally within us to change and grow. We are resilient and adaptable by design, because we are connected to the innate intelligence and wisdom of life. #lindseyelliottwellbeingcoach #resiliencecoach #wellbeingcoach #brightonlifecoach #threeprinciplescoach #insideoutcoaching #threeprinciples #insideoutunderstanding #insideout #anxiet

“Voluntary simplicity means going fewer places in one day, rather than more, seeing less so I can see more, doing less so I can do more, acquiring less so I can have more.” ~ Jon Kabat-Zinn Doesn’t modern life sometimes feel pretty complex and full? I have been contemplating simplicity recently after feeling an inner nudge to simplify my life where I can, and to slow down. The current lock down that most of us are experiencing due to covid-19 may be nudging more of us to expl

Are you struggling more than usual with your close relationships during lock down? I offer a fresh perspective about where our emotions come from in relationships, how mood affects us and how we all live in different realities. Hope it is useful. Above all, be kind to yourself xx Lindsey Elliott is a Wellbeing & Resilience Coach, and Three Principles practitioner working in Brighton and online. She offers one to one coaching in a life-changing paradigm of understanding about

This love letter was shared recently with me by a coaching colleague. I am not sure who Mavis Karn is, but I thank her for writing this beautiful reminder. I invite you to read this with an open mind, and heart. And to consider for yourself, what if this is true? For myself, I know this to be true...and there is such freedom in this knowing. The Secret by Mavis Karn Dear Kids (and former kids), I have a secret to tell you, Nobody meant to keep it from you…It’s just that it’s

During the Covid-19 pandemic it may feel like there is more uncertainty in the world, and our minds often start to rev up with 'what if' thinking...what if I get sick, what if I lose my job, what if the kids are off school for months....I explore why this thinking isn't useful and why we can ignore it. We have wisdom in the moment to guide us which we can always rely on. #covid19 #covid_19 #coronavirus #lindseyelliottwellbeingcoach #resiliencecoach #wellbeingcoach #brightonli

It seems that covid-19 (coronavirus) is going to be with us for some time. And the hope of a vaccine is still far from a reality. I have been hesitant to write too much about the virus, as there is already more than enough (too much) information out there. However, I feel that supporting our immune systems in the long term is the best way to help ourselves and our loved ones. With that in mind I have put together this immune support guide. This does NOT replace any advice on

Where we place our attention matters. In this current situation with Covid-19, it feels even more important to decide how much of our attention is going towards this. What we think about we feel...consciously pulling our attention back to the present, and to what we enjoy is vital during this time. I am here for online coaching sessions - if you are feeling stressed, anxious, scared, frustrated, bored....anything really and need some support, please do get in touch. I offer a

When we have a problem we tend to go to our intellect and think 'harder' about something in order to find a solution. Invariably we feel pretty tense and tight when this happens (as we are always feeling our thinking). When our mind is busy ruminating about a problem, often the 'solution' doesn't appear to us. We end up more frustrated and anxious. I use a helpful metaphor to explain this, and suggest an easier route and place to look for solutions. #lindseyelliottwellbeingco

There is a lot of emphasis on self-care today, especially for women. And this a good thing on so many levels. However like most concepts in modern life, even this can feel over complicated or like a pressure. An extra thing to do or achieve. The demands on all of us with work, maintaining a home, looking after kids or relatives, seeing our friends and keeping up with emails, social media and the various ‘notifications’ of our smart phone, can lead to feelings like overwhelm,

Logically we know we can't know what the future holds for us and our loved ones. But this doesn't stop our minds from going there - to imagined senarios, possible outcomes and any manner of dark places. If we see some 'benefit' to anxious thinking, we will continue to go down the 'rabbit hole' with it. This can affect our mood and ability to listen to our children when our minds are caught up. I point us here to the fact that anxious thought about the future has no benefit, h