“Fear is not real..... It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present, and may not ever, exist. That is near insanity. Do not misunderstand me danger is very real but fear is a choice.” ~ Will Smith. Fear is normal part of the human experience, that everyone feels from time to time, to varying degrees. Whilst it is normal to experience fear, it doesn’t have to stop us doing what we want to with our lives. We innocently misunderstand what

Are you longing to get to the end of your to-do list? Do you dream about the (imaginary) day when you have NOTHING to do?! I have been working with a client who is a busy working mum. She feels so much pressure about her to-do list and all the things she has to get done in the day. Her mind would constantly talk to her about all the things she ‘must’ get done today, what she has to do AFTER this task is over, and the next 3 things on her list, and how she is running out of ti

My son and I went for a walk recently, and he asked if he could wear his new headphones his Dad has given him, to listen to some music. Whilst I wanted to say no…it felt far too much like he is a teenager and not 7 (!!)… I ended up saying yes. Anyway, as we walked I could feel my son’s feelings of pride at feeling ‘cool’ and ‘grown up’. It was rather cute to see. However it got me thinking about how when we are young it can really look like it’s the clothes we wear, the thing

As we begin to experience an ever-increasing easing of the lockdown restrictions here in the U.K, how are you feeling about it? For some of us, each new lifting of a restriction brings a feeling of excitement, and relief that life is beginning to return to ‘normal’( or maybe a new ‘normal’). It may mean that you are able to reopen your business or get back to work, which will ease things financially for you. Or some of us might be thrilled that at long last we can have a soci

A few days ago I had an insight about makeup. It was quite an innocent, small thought but it led me to see again that what I think isn’t necessarily true. I was thinking about a friend of mine who I know to be confident, grounded, strong, independent and resilient. Yet she always wears quite a lot of makeup. As I was mulling this over, I thought “That makeup must just be hiding insecurity”. And then the next thought that popped into my head was “On some days I wear makeup bec

I reflect here on how we have adapted and changed to the world situation with covid-19 without much preparation. We as humans have this ability naturally within us to change and grow. We are resilient and adaptable by design, because we are connected to the innate intelligence and wisdom of life. #lindseyelliottwellbeingcoach #resiliencecoach #wellbeingcoach #brightonlifecoach #threeprinciplescoach #insideoutcoaching #threeprinciples #insideoutunderstanding #insideout #anxiet

“Voluntary simplicity means going fewer places in one day, rather than more, seeing less so I can see more, doing less so I can do more, acquiring less so I can have more.” ~ Jon Kabat-Zinn Doesn’t modern life sometimes feel pretty complex and full? I have been contemplating simplicity recently after feeling an inner nudge to simplify my life where I can, and to slow down. The current lock down that most of us are experiencing due to covid-19 may be nudging more of us to expl

Are you struggling more than usual with your close relationships during lock down? I offer a fresh perspective about where our emotions come from in relationships, how mood affects us and how we all live in different realities. Hope it is useful. Above all, be kind to yourself xx Lindsey Elliott is a Wellbeing & Resilience Coach, and Three Principles practitioner working in Brighton and online. She offers one to one coaching in a life-changing paradigm of understanding about

This love letter was shared recently with me by a coaching colleague. I am not sure who Mavis Karn is, but I thank her for writing this beautiful reminder. I invite you to read this with an open mind, and heart. And to consider for yourself, what if this is true? For myself, I know this to be true...and there is such freedom in this knowing. The Secret by Mavis Karn Dear Kids (and former kids), I have a secret to tell you, Nobody meant to keep it from you…It’s just that it’s

During the Covid-19 pandemic it may feel like there is more uncertainty in the world, and our minds often start to rev up with 'what if' thinking...what if I get sick, what if I lose my job, what if the kids are off school for months....I explore why this thinking isn't useful and why we can ignore it. We have wisdom in the moment to guide us which we can always rely on. #covid19 #covid_19 #coronavirus #lindseyelliottwellbeingcoach #resiliencecoach #wellbeingcoach #brightonli

It seems that covid-19 (coronavirus) is going to be with us for some time. And the hope of a vaccine is still far from a reality. I have been hesitant to write too much about the virus, as there is already more than enough (too much) information out there. However, I feel that supporting our immune systems in the long term is the best way to help ourselves and our loved ones. With that in mind I have put together this immune support guide. This does NOT replace any advice on

Where we place our attention matters. In this current situation with Covid-19, it feels even more important to decide how much of our attention is going towards this. What we think about we feel...consciously pulling our attention back to the present, and to what we enjoy is vital during this time. I am here for online coaching sessions - if you are feeling stressed, anxious, scared, frustrated, bored....anything really and need some support, please do get in touch. I offer a

Hello! I am offering this short guided meditation today to help with anxiety, worry and insecurity. Whether you are feeling anxious about Coronavirus, or something else, take a short time out to reset back to calm and peace xx #lindseyelliottwellbeingcoach #resiliencecoach #wellbeingcoach #brightonlifecoach #threeprinciplescoach #insideoutcoaching #coronavirus #clovid19 #meditation #guidedmeditation #onlinemeditation #onlinemeditationgroup #peace #peaceiswithin #peacewithin #

When we have a problem we tend to go to our intellect and think 'harder' about something in order to find a solution. Invariably we feel pretty tense and tight when this happens (as we are always feeling our thinking). When our mind is busy ruminating about a problem, often the 'solution' doesn't appear to us. We end up more frustrated and anxious. I use a helpful metaphor to explain this, and suggest an easier route and place to look for solutions. #lindseyelliottwellbeingco

If we believe that what we think about ourselves is true, then it becomes easy to believe we are broken in some way, damaged by life or just plain old insecure. I lived for most of my adult life under the illusion that what I think is true. The relief to know this isn’t how life works is immense. When we see the impersonal nature of the Power of Thought that runs through us every moment of every day, we begin to see that we may feel broken, damaged or insecure when that think

There is a lot of emphasis on self-care today, especially for women. And this a good thing on so many levels. However like most concepts in modern life, even this can feel over complicated or like a pressure. An extra thing to do or achieve. The demands on all of us with work, maintaining a home, looking after kids or relatives, seeing our friends and keeping up with emails, social media and the various ‘notifications’ of our smart phone, can lead to feelings like overwhelm,

Logically we know we can't know what the future holds for us and our loved ones. But this doesn't stop our minds from going there - to imagined senarios, possible outcomes and any manner of dark places. If we see some 'benefit' to anxious thinking, we will continue to go down the 'rabbit hole' with it. This can affect our mood and ability to listen to our children when our minds are caught up. I point us here to the fact that anxious thought about the future has no benefit, h

When our children misbehave or don't listen, it can be really seductive to believe that this is causing our feelings of stress, anger, impatience or frustration. I explore here where the experience of our feelings is REALLY coming from, and how I found compassion for myself when I react badly with my child. Let me know any comments or questions below! Lindsey Elliott is a Wellbeing & Resilience Coach & Three Principles Practitioner working in Brighton and online. She offers o

I explore here what I have seen about conflict within relationships, that I hope will be useful for you - How we all live in different realities, or perceptions, of life according to our thinking and how no one can MAKE me feel anything! I also discuss how looking towards our similarities rather than our differences can be more peaceful, along with a hefty dose of compassion and love for yourself, and those you are in relationship with. Let me know any comments or questions b

Here I am exploring looking in a different direction when we want to lose weight. If you have tried SO many times to lose weight, or to like your body, maybe it's time to try something new. I explain here what is really going on, how we aren't our experiences and what we really have going for us. When we stop looking to change our behaviour and look instead to understanding our mind works and who we really are, change is effortless and permanent. We don't have to add so much