Where self-esteem doesn't come from.

My son and I went for a walk recently, and he asked if he could wear his new headphones his Dad has given him, to listen to some music. Whilst I wanted to say no…it felt far too much like he is a teenager and not 7 (!!)… I ended up saying yes.

Anyway, as we walked I could feel my son’s feelings of pride at feeling ‘cool’ and ‘grown up’. It was rather cute to see. However it got me thinking about how when we are young it can really look like it’s the clothes we wear, the things we own, the friends we have, how we look that make us ‘cool’ or ‘worthy’ or helps us to fit in. And it seems we spend a lot of our adult lives undoing this misunderstanding…that our worth comes from what we achieve in life, what job we have, our level of education, the money we earn, how we look etc etc.

The trouble with trying to fit in and attach our worth to things outside of us is, it’s all so subjective. And if our job, or money or beauty disappears then so does our sense of being good enough. It’s all build on such shaky ground.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if our children knew that their self-esteem doesn’t come from outside of them? If they could play in the world of clothes, gadgets, devices and ‘stuff’ but know deep down it means nothing about them?

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if all the adults you know also knew their self-esteem and worth isn’t ever up for grabs? When people feel better about themselves, they do better in life and tend to be less critical, bullying and judgmental of others. I hold out hope for seeing this more and more in our world.

If you are ready for rock solid self-esteem, confidence and feelings of worth, book a call with me here so we can explore how I can help you.




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