Feeling insecure and believing we are responsible for other people's feelings often go hand-in-hand. But it doesn't have to be this way. If you are ready to find freedom from this, people pleasing and more, join my upcoming 4-week course, You Are Enough . We start on 31st October 2023. I would love for you to join me x Like this video? Please like and subscribe to my YouTube channel . Please sign up to my mailing list to receive new videos as they are released, exclusive off

People who don't like making mistakes often believe their self-esteem is directly impacted by how well we do in life. But what if this correlation isn't true? And that making mistakes is how we learn and grow as adults, not just as little kids. I'll be exploring this and so much more in my upcoming 4-week course, You Are Enough . If you hate making mistakes, this could be just the course for you! We start on 31st October 2023. I would love for you to join me x Like this video

When we experience a lot of insecure thoughts about ourselves, or have think we aren't good enough, we can believe this means we ARE insecure and need to fix ourselves. The commentary that goes on in your head, about YOU and how you are doing, makes it all seem to real. But what if this the commentary in your head isn't speaking the truth, and doesn't mean you are insecure? Feeling secure and confident has nothing to do with what goes through our minds. I'll be exploring this

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It's often our beliefs about ourselves, others and the world that cause us suffering. But belief aren't 'real'. They may feel very real...

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In part 2 of this video, I do a quick recap of part 1 about the cycle of addiction and how all addictions are the same in nature. Once...

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It seems pretty universal that we have some flavour of not-good-enough running through our minds, but what if we don't have to take this so seriously, as it has NOTHING to do with who we are? Rob asks me a question about low self-esteem and how he has struggled with this his whole life. Listen in as I talk through a helpful metaphor, (that's why I'm pointing to the cup!) to explain where the experience of low self-esteem comes from, and how it hasn't got anything to do with w