Updated: Oct 23, 2019
What if happiness is about subtraction, rather than addition to our lives?
What if “10 Steps To Happiness” really is a myth? (I wanted to use a swear word there but restrained myself!)
The current consciousness of most of Western society tells us that being happy requires certain outside things to be ‘attained’ or in place for our lives to be happy – a loving relationship; a job we enjoy that pays us good money or a thriving business; a slim, healthy body; a great group of fun, vivacious friends; close family relationship, only feeling certain feelings etc. etc.
Now the savvy among you will already have clocked onto the fact that the outside things don’t, and can’t bring, us happiness…even though, damn it, it really looks that way sometimes.
Have you noticed that the analytical part of your mind will simply find another area of your life to ‘improve’ once one area has changed??
The list of standards we need to meet in order to be happy just goes on and on. And all the while the pressure increases internally when we believe that we need more in our lives, rather than less. The expectation put ‘out there’ that we should be happy all the time, and need to work on ourselves in order to be happy, creates more unhappiness in its wake.
Rather than setting ourselves up to fail (we aren’t meant to be happy ALL the time) with this expectation, a more peaceful way to hang out in the world, could be accepting and allowing EVERY experience and emotion to show up and flow through us.
The resistance to what is, is what creates suffering.
The only way, 100% of the time, we experience happiness is when we happen to have happy or contented thinking running through our heads. And as the power of Thought is an ever-moving and changing energy, we never get stuck for too long in ANY emotional state – ones we like and ones we don’t. In short, happiness is an inside job!
What if the key to happiness is subtracting the belief that every thought that runs through our heads is true? Or simply knowing that, but for our current thinking, happiness is there by default??
I’m not saying that being happy is not a ‘good’ thing but rather that it comes from a totally different place than we may believe it does. And that is resides within us as a default setting. It is only believing our current thinking that gets in the way.
Lindsey Elliott is a Wellbeing & Resilience Coach, energy healer and meditation teacher working in Brighton and online. She offers one to one coaching in a life-changing paradigm of understanding about how the human experience is created. With this understanding you can move from feeling insecure, stressed, anxious or unfulfilled to happy, secure, inspired, peaceful and filled with love.
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