You are no doubt experiencing a lot of different emotions right now. Do you feel that you need to ‘do’ something to change these feelings? Especially those you don’t like? Or do you think they mean something important about you and how you are doing? … Somehow we get fooled into believing that if we have a certain emotion, it will last forever. Or that it is showing us something meaningful about us or our circumstances - it means that we aren’t coping or succeeding in life s

“The kindest thing you can do for yourself is not to believe your own thinking” ~ Lindsey Elliott I know that this may seem like a crazy thing to say. What do we believe if we don’t believe our own minds? However… - Our thinking or perception is fluid and changes all the time. It’s very nature is such that we can’t see it or grab hold of it; it isn’t solid or real or fixed. It’s an energy that constantly flows. - Minds love to make s**t up!! I don’t about your mind, but mine

Here is my interview on the Precarious Parenting podcast with my friend and colleague Marie Arymar about my experience during the initial stages of lockdown (click on the link here and scroll down to podcast 6). This is a very honest and open interview where you'll hear me talking about: - The initial intense anxiety I experienced and how this affected my parenting - How 'what if-ing' is what minds like to do but why we can ignore this - How I saw through what my mind was doi

You are no doubt experiencing a lot of different emotions right now with covid-19 and all the implications for our lives. Do you feel that you need to ‘do’ something to change these feelings? Especially those you don’t like? Or do you think they mean something important about you and how you are doing? … Somehow we get fooled into believing that if we have a certain emotion, it will last forever. Or that it is showing us something meaningful about us or our circumstances - i

I hope you find this a helpful metaphor which points to how the human experience and emotions work. A cup can hold so many things. It can be filled with tea, water, juice, wine, coffee, lemonade, a cocktail….etc. etc. We can view ourselves as like a cup. We are the container for an infinite number of thoughts and feelings which pass through our cup everyday – happy thoughts, sad thoughts, resentful ones, angry ones…the content doesn’t overly matter. What is helpful to see is

When we feel discomfort within ourselves, is it possible to let it be and not try to fix it? Whether this is emotional discomfort, mental, spiritual or physical….as humans I believe we naturally err towards feeling good. We know that our innate selves are ones of joy, peace, love and ease. However we don’t experience this all the time….we aren’t meant to. I have found that when we try to fix discomfort with food, phones, alcohol, shopping (you can name you preferred method!)

Our habitual, repetitive, egoic or personal thinking is mostly pretty loud in our heads and is able to grab our attention easily. Rather like if a brass band was playing close by to you. You couldn’t help but listen. As a society we are mostly led to believe that the constant analytical chatter that goes on in our heads is useful, and needs to be paid attention to. Our innate wisdom that is always within us, can be somewhat quieter, like a flute playing. This flute is always

There is a lot of focus and talk ‘out there’ about reaching our full ‘potential’. Most times when I read things about this, it feels like a massive pressure is being exerted to have a certain life…or really just to be uber-successful. I wholeheartedly agree that being inspired by others, and having a vision for our lives can be a useful and positive experience. But I find myself asking is there a more peaceful way to reach our full potential? Currently it looks to me that we

When we can clearly ‘See’ that we are not the experiences (thoughts, emotions, feelings, behaviours) we go through but the container for those experiences, a new freedom is found. Thoughts pass through us thousands of times a day. Some we are conscious of, the vast majority we are not. Thought brings feeling with it, like the inseparable faces of a coin. We don’t have to do anything with these thoughts and feelings. The human system is designed to re-set itself moment by mome

What if happiness is about subtraction, rather than addition to our lives? What if “10 Steps To Happiness” really is a myth? (I wanted to use a swear word there but restrained myself!) The current consciousness of most of Western society tells us that being happy requires certain outside things to be ‘attained’ or in place for our lives to be happy – a loving relationship; a job we enjoy that pays us good money or a thriving business; a slim, healthy body; a great group of fu

“Somewhere in the innermost recesses of our consciousness lie the answers to the questions all mankind seeks. As our consciousness descends, we lose our feelings of love and understanding, and experience a world of emptiness, bewilderment and despair. As our consciousness ascends, we regain purity of Thought and, in turn, regain our feelings of love and understanding”. Sydney Banks The Missing Link. Our consciousness is our most precious gift as it determines the reality we g