Over the weekend my husband and I watched the Netflix documentary #thesocialdilemma. Have you seen it yet? It is most definitely a necessary and important watch. I have to admit that I was quite shocked by the level of manipulation of users in social media land. And what struck me the most is that WE are the product that is being manipulated…our ATTENTION is what is being touted for on social media platforms. It has really made me consider my phone and internet use as a whole

“Fear is not real..... It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present, and may not ever, exist. That is near insanity. Do not misunderstand me danger is very real but fear is a choice.” ~ Will Smith. Fear is normal part of the human experience, that everyone feels from time to time, to varying degrees. Whilst it is normal to experience fear, it doesn’t have to stop us doing what we want to with our lives. We innocently misunderstand what

As we begin to experience an ever-increasing easing of the lockdown restrictions here in the U.K, how are you feeling about it? For some of us, each new lifting of a restriction brings a feeling of excitement, and relief that life is beginning to return to ‘normal’( or maybe a new ‘normal’). It may mean that you are able to reopen your business or get back to work, which will ease things financially for you. Or some of us might be thrilled that at long last we can have a soci

A few days ago I had an insight about makeup. It was quite an innocent, small thought but it led me to see again that what I think isn’t necessarily true. I was thinking about a friend of mine who I know to be confident, grounded, strong, independent and resilient. Yet she always wears quite a lot of makeup. As I was mulling this over, I thought “That makeup must just be hiding insecurity”. And then the next thought that popped into my head was “On some days I wear makeup bec

“Voluntary simplicity means going fewer places in one day, rather than more, seeing less so I can see more, doing less so I can do more, acquiring less so I can have more.” ~ Jon Kabat-Zinn Doesn’t modern life sometimes feel pretty complex and full? I have been contemplating simplicity recently after feeling an inner nudge to simplify my life where I can, and to slow down. The current lock down that most of us are experiencing due to covid-19 may be nudging more of us to expl

This love letter was shared recently with me by a coaching colleague. I am not sure who Mavis Karn is, but I thank her for writing this beautiful reminder. I invite you to read this with an open mind, and heart. And to consider for yourself, what if this is true? For myself, I know this to be true...and there is such freedom in this knowing. The Secret by Mavis Karn Dear Kids (and former kids), I have a secret to tell you, Nobody meant to keep it from you…It’s just that it’s

It seems that covid-19 (coronavirus) is going to be with us for some time. And the hope of a vaccine is still far from a reality. I have been hesitant to write too much about the virus, as there is already more than enough (too much) information out there. However, I feel that supporting our immune systems in the long term is the best way to help ourselves and our loved ones. With that in mind I have put together this immune support guide. This does NOT replace any advice on

Where we place our attention matters. In this current situation with Covid-19, it feels even more important to decide how much of our attention is going towards this. What we think about we feel...consciously pulling our attention back to the present, and to what we enjoy is vital during this time. I am here for online coaching sessions - if you are feeling stressed, anxious, scared, frustrated, bored....anything really and need some support, please do get in touch. I offer a

When we have a problem we tend to go to our intellect and think 'harder' about something in order to find a solution. Invariably we feel pretty tense and tight when this happens (as we are always feeling our thinking). When our mind is busy ruminating about a problem, often the 'solution' doesn't appear to us. We end up more frustrated and anxious. I use a helpful metaphor to explain this, and suggest an easier route and place to look for solutions. #lindseyelliottwellbeingco

There is a lot of emphasis on self-care today, especially for women. And this a good thing on so many levels. However like most concepts in modern life, even this can feel over complicated or like a pressure. An extra thing to do or achieve. The demands on all of us with work, maintaining a home, looking after kids or relatives, seeing our friends and keeping up with emails, social media and the various ‘notifications’ of our smart phone, can lead to feelings like overwhelm,

When our children misbehave or don't listen, it can be really seductive to believe that this is causing our feelings of stress, anger, impatience or frustration. I explore here where the experience of our feelings is REALLY coming from, and how I found compassion for myself when I react badly with my child. Let me know any comments or questions below! Lindsey Elliott is a Wellbeing & Resilience Coach & Three Principles Practitioner working in Brighton and online. She offers o

I explore here what I have seen about conflict within relationships, that I hope will be useful for you - How we all live in different realities, or perceptions, of life according to our thinking and how no one can MAKE me feel anything! I also discuss how looking towards our similarities rather than our differences can be more peaceful, along with a hefty dose of compassion and love for yourself, and those you are in relationship with. Let me know any comments or questions b

When we understand how things work, generally we can work with them better. For example, when we know how a smart phone or laptop works we can get more out of it, rather than pressing buttons at random and hoping for the best. Similarly, when we understand how the mind works, and how our experience is created, we can (most of the time!) work with them in a better way. All of life as we know it comes from one formless energy. This formless energy takes form all the time, over

I'm talking here about the nature of the human experience, where our feelings and low moods really come from, and if we can be OK with not feeling good. Hope it helps if you are in a low mood or are feeling rubbish. Or helps you to see how our experience is really created. Any comments, do let me know! xx #lindseyelliottwellbeingcoach #resiliencecoach #wellbeingcoach #brightonlifecoach #threeprinciplescoach #insideoutcoaching #insideoutcoaching #threeprinciples #insideoutund

We all do it. Find ourselves thinking about the future, imagining conversations we might have with people, or scenarios we may be faced with. It’s a natural part of the human experience to be lost in some imagined future, rather than being present with this moment. I find in my own life, when I am caught up in future-thinking, it tends to bring with it slightly anxious feelings, that aren’t telling me anything true, or real, about the future. Logically, we all know that we ca

In this video I talk about how to discern between listening to our wisdom, and listening to our 'personal' thinking. I give examples from my own life and ask you some reflection questions. Please do contact me with any questions or comments x . . . . #clarity #consciousness #higherconsciousness #busymind #thoughts #thinking #youarenotyourthoughts #mindfulness #wellbeing #wellness #holistichealth #holistic #healing #health #selfcare #support #mentalhealth #lindseyelliottwellbe

In this video I talk about emotions and feelings: where they really come from, and what to do (or not!) about them. Please feel free to contact me with any questions or comment! x #lindseyelliottwellbeingcoach #emotions #emotionalfreedom #helpwithemotions #clarity #thehumanexperience #beinghuman #threeprinciples #resiliencecoach #wellbeingcoach #brightonlifecoach #threeprinciplescoach #insideoutcoaching #insideoutunderstanding #insideout #anxiety #anxietyhelp #thoughts #think

I want you to imagine, if you will, a light bulb covered in hundreds of sticky notes. Written on the notes is variety of words such as: “Kind” “Lazy” “Woman” “Too fat” “Stressed” “Anxious” “Hardworking” “Unfit” “Successful” “A failure” “Untidy” The light of that shines from the light bulb is covered over by all the sticky labels. We all have them, these labels. Concepts about who we are that we believe to be true. We usually have a mix of both positive and negative ones, and

I love the simplicity and ordinary-ness of this way of seeing how our thinking works. We are led to believe that what we think has to be taken seriously, is TRUE and is to be believed…no matter the content. If I think it, it MUST be true! In and of themselves, thoughts have no power. It’s only when we ‘give’ them power by paying attention to them, focusing on them and believing them that we may come unstuck. Thought energy is meant to flow through us, not get stuck within us.

Over the many years that I have been exploring the spiritual side of life, one of the concepts that has, quite frankly, baffled me is the idea that everything we know and see in the physical world is an illusion. My head always argues that the chair in front of me, the trees I see outside, the cars passing by, the people I love, all LOOK and FEEL very real! And of course they are. When I came across an understanding of how the mind works, and how our experience of life is cre