Person covered in sticky notes If you’ve spent years trying to improve yourself, to feel more confident, less anxious, more “together”, you might have absorbed the idea that something in you needs fixing. I used to believe that too. Many of the women I work with are competent, capable and thoughtful. On the surface, they are functioning well. But internally, there is a constant sense of evaluation. Am I doing enough? Am I too much? Did I say the wrong thing? Over time, that i

I recently watched the Victoria Beckham  documentary, and one moment at the end really struck me because it captures the heart of what I help people see in my work. In the final scene, David asks Victoria why she still feels she has something to prove, and he suggests that maybe she’s trying to prove to herself that she’s good enough. It’s such a powerful reflection of what so many of us do — chasing success, approval, or achievement in the hope that one day we’ll finally fee

Have you ever wondered why, no matter how much you achieve, there’s still a quiet voice inside saying you’re not quite good enough? I was reminded of this recently while watching the Victoria Beckham documentary . In the final scene, David asks Victoria why she’s still so driven, what she’s still trying to prove. Her response? She’s proving it to herself. That simple exchange was powerful. Because it reveals something we all experience in different ways: no amount of success,

We all have moments when we do something we don’t like — maybe we snap, defend ourselves, or act in a way that feels out of line with who we want to be. Then the shame hits. We promise ourselves that next time  we’ll be calmer, kinder, more in control… and yet the same pattern plays out again. In this week’s video, I respond to a listener’s question about this exact experience — a habitual reaction that feels impossible to stop and leaves her feeling embarrassed and ashamed.

In this short video, I share a powerful personal story about one of my closest friends, who is currently facing a potentially life-altering health crisis. It’s a stark and emotional example—but also a deeply human reminder of something important: 💡 We are far more resilient than we think. I explore: Why we think  we can’t handle certain things—and why that’s just the mind talking The difference between imagining a crisis and actually living through one How real strength show

Video You Are Not Broken Somewhere along the way, many of us picked up the idea that we’re not enough. That we need fixing. That our worth is something to earn or prove. We live in a world obsessed with self-improvement—but what if the constant need to fix yourself is  the problem? In this short, powerful video, I use a simple example—my dog Ash—to remind us of what we’ve forgotten: your worth isn’t based on how you feel, what you’ve been through, or how well you’re doing at

Welcome to a fresh take on the New Year, New You concept. Unlike typical resolutions, this video challenges the myths around self-improvement at the year's end 🎉 As the year comes to a close, many of us start reflecting on the past year and planning for the next. Society and media bombard us with messages that we need to change and improve ourselves, and reach certain standards. But is that really necessary? 🤔 In this video, I'll help you see through the myths and pressures

In this video we're diving into a topic that affects many of us: Job security and performance. Have you ever felt insecure about your job title, performance, or salary? You're not alone! In this video, we explore how attaching our sense of worth to external factors like job performance can lead to insecurity. Key Takeaways: - Insecure Thinking: Discover how our thoughts and feelings about job security can change and why this leads to insecurity. - Internal Security: Learn wh

Does it feel like everyone else feels confident and secure? And you are constantly not sure of yourself, don’t feel good enough or think you are worth the best that life has to offer? You may have been trying to feel good enough and secure within yourself by reading books, going on workshops, writing affirmations, journaling, meditating, tapping, clearing out limiting beliefs, clearing away blocks, or pursuing the ‘ideal’ life. But what if it’s much easier and simpler than al

Video Four in Unlocking More Time and Ease in Your Life: A Four-Part Video Series Welcome to the final instalment of my free four-part series, 'Unlocking More Time and Ease in Your Life'. In this series I explore major life areas that often consume our precious resources when we believe we must manage or control them. Video Four: Trusting Your Inner Compass In this culminating video, I delve into the heart of making decisions with confidence and peace. If you've ever found yo

So much of our experience of anxiety and worry is about things that haven't even happened yet. It can feel useful to think about what might happen in preparation for challenging events or feelings. But so much of what our minds wander off worrying about doesn't actually happen! Use this phrase as a reminder to yourself when you are lost in worry and future based thinking. Like this video? Please like and subscribe to my YouTube channel .   Please sign up  to my mailing list

When we feel nervous to start new things, this can sometimes put us off from even trying. But what if feeling nervous isn't something we have to take so seriously? It's simply an evolutionary response our brain has to the unknown and uncertainty. This leaves us free to try whatever the heck new things we want to! Like this video? Please like and subscribe to my YouTube channel .   Please sign up  to my mailing list to receive new videos as they are released, exclusive offers

The Cambridge dictionary definition of procrastination is: ‘ the act of delaying something that must be done, often because it is unpleasant or boring ’. I would also add to that, ‘ something we believe is hard or we won’t be able to achieve or complete’. Almost all of us will have experienced doing something trivial or mindless instead of getting on with the task we really need to be doing. We might find ourselves putting off writing a report, doing our homework or compet

If we often feel worried or anxious, and question our ability to cope when something challenging comes along, it can look like we need to protect ourselves from life and it's experiences. But humans are perfectly designed, in that our ability to bounce back, and adjust to the challenges in life, is built into how we work. Like this video? Please like and subscribe to my YouTube channel . Please sign up to my mailing list to receive new videos as they are released, exclusive

One of the greatest myths that bobs about on socials is that we need to 'build' our self-esteem, confidence and worth. Not only is this hard work and effort, results are rarely long-lasting. What if there is a simpler understanding of our self-esteem that takes away all the hard work and striving? If you are ready to find out, I'll be exploring this and so much more in my upcoming 4-week course, You Are Enough . We start on 31st October 2023. I would love for you to join me x

People who don't like making mistakes often believe their self-esteem is directly impacted by how well we do in life. But what if this correlation isn't true? And that making mistakes is how we learn and grow as adults, not just as little kids. I'll be exploring this and so much more in my upcoming 4-week course, You Are Enough . If you hate making mistakes, this could be just the course for you! We start on 31st October 2023. I would love for you to join me x Like this video

When we experience a lot of insecure thoughts about ourselves, or have think we aren't good enough, we can believe this means we ARE insecure and need to fix ourselves. The commentary that goes on in your head, about YOU and how you are doing, makes it all seem to real. But what if this the commentary in your head isn't speaking the truth, and doesn't mean you are insecure? Feeling secure and confident has nothing to do with what goes through our minds. I'll be exploring this

Worrying about what other people think of you is a common symptom when we feel insecure and have low self-esteem. There is a 'reason' for...

Worry and anxiety about the future is often based around believing we couldn't cope with something challenging if it happened. But if we...

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